If you want to understand today, you have to search yesterday.
Pearl S. Buck – (1892-1973) American writer
Preparing our personal history offers us the opportunity to look back on all our yesterdays. By doing so, we come to see more clearly how we got to where we are, the values that have inspired us along the way and what wisdom we’ve accumulated. A clearer understanding of our past helps us better navigate our future course.
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Tagged: life story, Pearl S. Buck, quote, recall, reflection
It seems that the way our brains store and recollect memories is kind of quirky. Our brains frequently convert rumors, falsities and opinions into perceived, recollected fact says Scott LaFee in an article in The San Diego Union-Tribune.
Everybody does it,” said Sam Wang, an associate professor of molecular biology and neuroscience at Princeton University. “Memory formation and retrieval isn’t like writing something down on a piece of paper. Memories drift and change, and things we may have once doubted, we no longer do.
As we recall stored facts, said Wang, our brains reprocess them, collate them with new information, re-interpret the result, then re-store them as new and “improved” memories.
What does that mean for those of us writing our own memoir? I think what we need to keep in mind is that we want to render a three dimensional portrait not fret about getting every little detail correct. What’s important is that it’s your story, your recollections, your response to the events in your life. So what, if your brother or sister saw things differently. It’s not their story.
What I aim for in producing a life story for my clients is something more than just a chronological retelling of the events in their lives. I want to know how they responded to events; how they felt; the life lessons they learned; the values and passions that have driven them; their triumphs and tragedies and their hopes and dreams.
So, don’t worry. Like me and everyone else, our past memories are most likely an amalgam of fact and fiction. What’s really important is that we start recording and preserving memories now before they’re lost forever.
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Categories: How to · Life stories · Writing
Tagged: accuracy, family history, life story, memoir, memory, recall
I’ve been reading a remarkable book by Ojibway storyteller, Richard Wagamese. Recently published, One Native Life, is a memoir about roots and the power of recollection to heal. For anyone contemplating the writing of their own story or the story of another, I can’t think of a better book to inspire you.
I was struck by a passage that made me realize how sound and light can be triggers for recalling forgotten memories. Wagamese writes,
The more I presented myself to the land in those early hours, the more it offered me back the realization of who I was created to be.
I began to remember. The sound of squirrels in the topmost branches of a pine tree reminded me of a forgotten episode from my boyhood; the wobbly call of the loons took me back to an adventure on the land when I was a young man. And there was always the light. The shades and degrees of it evoked people and places I hadn’t thought about in decades. Every one of those walks allowed me the grace of recollection, and I began to write things down.
For me the lonely blast of a foghorn, the wild call of geese flying south and the pounding surf on a rocky beach are just a few of the sounds that can evoke strong memories of my childhood on the rugged West Coast of Vancouver Island in British Columbia. What are some of the sounds that trigger memories for you?
Wagamese’s book has made me consider other ways our memories can be triggered. Here are a few:
When writing, keep in mind these powerful ways to tap into the rich treasury of memories that lie just below the surface of our awareness.
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Tagged: forgotten memories, memoir, Ojibway, recall, Richard Wagamese, senses, Writing
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